Saturday, October 21, 2006

Corbin Clausewitz's Letter to Mother about Younger Brother's Drug Problem

This just in from Corbin Clausewitz:
Dearest Mother,

I don't blame you or Dad, or his genes; remember I am from the same gene pool. The main culprit is the culture. The problem has to do with you and Dad only to the extent that you are unable to diagnose him properly, due to your inability to see that it is larger, cultural problem. This doesn't mean he's not personally responsible. If anything, he's even more culpable for allowing the culture to convince him that nothing is his fault.

Also, all of these New Age self-help groups that you keep sending him to are useless. You don't look within yourself to figure out the problem, you look without. You take interest in outside things, not in yourself. Join the Taliban, or the Young Zionists of America! Pan for gold in Mexico, or join the Church. Or get an internship with Auntie Chris at Carpetland. Getting lost in the labyrinth of the self will only perpetuate the problem.

Second, you say "he needs to learn to have fun without drugs." No, he needs to learn that the pursuit of "fun" is a waste of energy. Fun is crap. I don't have any fun, but I prefer it that way. Kant said that the end of life is not "happiness" or "fun," it is "fullness," which is related to moral virtue. You don't need to have any fun to have fullness.

I only see things getting worse, since neither he nor anyone else around him seems capable of properly diagnosing the problem.

Your son,


Peony said...

I read every so often here. Stopped by today and was saddened to hear about your brother's problem. I couldn't agree more with your disgnosis-- though wondered why you posted to a public place!!

Take care.

Claytonian said...

as my people say, get lost in the work!

Peony said...

Who are your people Clatonian?? And shouldn't they be saying, get lost in the romance?? If you are the legendary romantic guy...

Ryan said...

Peony, Thanks for the post. You're probably right. I'll have to bury this post deep into the blog.

Claytonian, Yes, who are your people? The Scots?

Anonymous said...

Ryan, I don't like you posting this stuff on your blog. But now that it's here, I'll post my rebuttle.

We just got out of our 2nd day of counseling withf brett. he is doing real well. off all meds, even the high blood pressure stuff.

1. we totally understand the cultural problem, it is huge. i have the same genes as my bro, but not his same problems. it is only a small part of it. i agree with you. but there is a difference betweeen the person that will never become an addict and the one who does.

2. i did not say "needs to have fun". the program he is in wants them to learn to interact in a fun way around fun activities. it is part of their program, not mine. i think you need to have more fun and of course nothing is as fun as doing fullfilling work, such as teaching, i know all about that.

3. how dare you say the problem is not diagnosed. you only know of the small parts i have told you. today there was a wonderful man that lectured there. he went to this place 17 years ago, and is sober, has a family and a good life. he was right on and the people listened. only those who have been there can truely help. i believe that.

the diagnosis is addiction. the symptom is drug abuse. the answer lies within (soul searching) and without (as you say get out of yourself). brett is learning. he will be there until Nov 4th. then he will move into a sober living house (4 or 5 guys), resume working, and or school and meeting the responsiblilites of his probation. I wish you had been there this morning to hear the speaker.

i appreciate your thoughts, and i do wish you would read up a bit on addictions. or not, and suggest more reading for brett. he is sober and he is like a sponge with all of this reading.

-Your mother